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Andrea Morisette Grazzini

CEO, WetheP, Inc.


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Can we heal self and society by reweaving our tattered nets?

We live divided by myriad perceptions and realities.

Intricate tapestries are woven by so many interconnected webs, including those present on the internet and online forums like TED. Still dispirit, dissonant, disorienting forces meanwhile, by intent or accident, unravel the increasingly fleeting connections.

Mary M's plaintive point illustrated the layers of disconnect, in my Q.

"Religion divides us. Ethnicity divides us. Culture divides us. Politics divides us. Socio-economic backgrounds divides us. Intellect divides us. Gender divides us," Mary said. Then asked:

"What unites us?"

TED presenter Jaime Lubin's answer, which I've edited here, provides clarity:

"To build the community we have to start from ourselves, as individuals," Jaime began.

"Human structures are rigid because the social building is made from persons. When persons wear masks, or act as superficial simulations, so social infrastructures become facades, too." He went on:

"But community is a net, not a static building or institution. A net is fluid and flexible, yielding to change and differences in environment. Yet strong and encompassing and able to hold tremendous diversities and weights, too. A net, in turn, is made from individual strands, separate until woven together. But before and after interconnection, still strong and flexible, each in its own way.

Individual comes from the Latin 'IN DIVIDERE.' It means impossible to divide. Thus when many individuals are put together the effects of flexibility and strength is amplified, maximized. And, this is important: visibly so.

In this net, no superficial facades hide structural immutabilities or the foundational cracks weakened by hidden dependencies.

So here is the Q --

How do we heal and reweave our selfs as individuals both strengthened and also given strength through our interconnection with many others in our cultures and societies.


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    Apr 29 2012: Let me introduce the harmony concept in this conversation. I can't attempt an answer if I can't remove my blindness. Please imagine a guitar, a very fine guitar; you see the instrument shine under the light, you feel the chords, and the machinery to set the right tune in the whole guitar thing and being.

    Then you want to play some notes and see that some chords are suffering a high tension, and others are loose. You discover that its impossible to play anything, Then you want to tune the guitar. You have to know how to do it. Assumme that you know,... but do you know how to play?....

    Please listen this superb example of equilibrium and harmony in hands of a guitarmaster.


    If you listen carefully you can see the harmony in the hands, the virtuosity in the attitude, and the extreme compassion between the master, the music, the guitar and you.

    In our relations in community the same metaphor plays.Harmony and compassion, virtuosity and respect.

    All this could be called: INTER-LOVE
    • Apr 29 2012: Thank you. Jaime. I enjoyed his presence..

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