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AbdelRahman Siddig

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What is the most painful lesson you experienced and you wish other people to avoid your experience

Some people when came a cross painfull experience they wish every one in the face of the Earth get the same level of pain
other people they wish all other people to avoid such pain
The Question is
What is the most painful lesson you experienced and you wish other people to avoid your experience?
what did you learned?
and what people should to avoid the same situation?


Closing Statement from AbdelRahman Siddig

We can not avoid the feeling of pain it good feeling if we know how to use it
and as the wisdom says " there is hiden treasure buried inside each tragedy"
but we can learn from each other mistakes and save time and efforts

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  • Apr 30 2012: I feel excruciatingly vulnerable in revealing the most painful lesson I experienced and wish others could avoid.
    I am currently 17 months in on a criminal court proceeding for which I am the victim of two counts object rape.
    I have so desperately wanted to feel secure. To feel like I do have dominion over my person. The court experience is extremely traumatizing, and it keeps the wounds of rape raw.

    Something about my world changed the day I was raped. It was a more dangerous, and calloused world that refused to understand my experience, because they knew they couldn't possibly.
    I learned that my world is unpredictable. That people are not to be trusted, but this is not something that must be learned by other rape victims.

    Our American society is eager to call every rape a "he said" "she said". Stop! We need to examine our western culture as a Rape Culture, and search our hearts and minds for how and why we contribute to it. If you want to avoid my situation, help your community make a cultural shift that values enthusiastic consent, and places the burden of receiving consent on the initiator, and understand that victims have already been through hell. They don't want to deal with your insecurities or anger. So if you ever find yourself a secondary survivor, which many of us are though we do not know it, talk to someone who is not the victim about getting care for yourself.

    I wish those who follow this conversation to get involved in movements like their local SlutWalk that focuses on cultures that victim blame and slut shame. Only an aggressive cultural shift towards a healthier community that values enthusiastic consent will help all of us to encounter fewer rapists.

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