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AbdelRahman Siddig

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What is the most painful lesson you experienced and you wish other people to avoid your experience

Some people when came a cross painfull experience they wish every one in the face of the Earth get the same level of pain
other people they wish all other people to avoid such pain
The Question is
What is the most painful lesson you experienced and you wish other people to avoid your experience?
what did you learned?
and what people should to avoid the same situation?


Closing Statement from AbdelRahman Siddig

We can not avoid the feeling of pain it good feeling if we know how to use it
and as the wisdom says " there is hiden treasure buried inside each tragedy"
but we can learn from each other mistakes and save time and efforts

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    Apr 26 2012: My most painful experience is one that I share with my students; I didn't take learning serious enough as a teen. Before I got out of high school, with low grades, I started having kids of my own. I didn't think I needed college to be successful. I didn't realize how much value our society places on education. For me, a life of hard physical work was not going to satisfy my mind. I ended up being a Teamster truck driver/dock worker for 8 years in order to go to school and break the cycle I found myself in. I am now a school teacher, but I think I would have enjoyed being a lawyer or something else if I had taken my education more seriously.

    It was very hard raising three kids on low income. It was painful, but we made it. I was lucky enough to have a wife that worked with me as a team. I went to school and got my Bachelor's degree and Teaching Credential and acquired my teaching job. Then it was my wife's turn to go to school and she got her Bachelor's and her Master's degrees. Then, my turn again, I went back and got my Master's degree. Now it is my wife's turn again and she is getting her Doctorate. All of this would have been much easier if we had gotten our education first. I share my experiences with my students and try to make them realize that a degree can be very important.

    This may sound bad to some, but it clicks with teens when I liken degrees to dogs. Mutts can be fantastic dogs, but they have no value (except to their owner/boss). A dog with a paper (pedigree) has value and is prized. Both dogs may be equally smart (and most scientific evidence shows that mutts are probably smarter), but it takes that paper to make a difference in value. This is like degrees that people get and how companies value them. The more degrees you have, the more serious people take you and pay you. Painful, but true.
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      Apr 26 2012: Greg, I can soo relate.
      When you look back, what do you think could you have done to convince that young boy to finish school? I am pretty sure someone somewhere said, stay in school or something like that, why didn't just them saying be enough for you to listen?

      I guess what I looking here is what do you tell your students?

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