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What's one lesson you find super compelling?

If you could put a megaphone to the ears of the world for just 5 mintues, what's the one lesson you would teach. It doesn't have to be serious, but it can be. It doesn't have to be about math, science, literature, or history, but it can be. It just needs to capture the minds of your audience.

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  • Apr 20 2012: My dad once told me to always speak up when I "felt" that something wasn't right... because it's worth the risk of being proven wrong.
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    Apr 20 2012: Wow, if I had EVERYONE in the world's attention....it would have to be, revolution. Not anarchy, not bloodshed, but change becasue it's obvious it's time to change this broken record.
    The lesson I would like everyone to learn is that just because things in the world are the way they are, doesn't mean they have to stay like that. There is enough for everyone, it's not a dream and it's not beyond your power. Not once EVERYONE (or at least the vast majority) agrees and moves in the same direction, then nothing can stop us from creating the world that we all know we SHOULD be creating. :)

    Oh, also, we need to go into space, but that can wait until we learn how to treat our own planet and peoples. We don't wanna go out there making the same childish mistakes(we couldn't afford that kinda GRAND SCALE FECK UP) :)
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      Apr 21 2012: Viva La Revolución.
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        Apr 21 2012: Derek, tu hablas espanol?
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          Apr 21 2012: It was a french expression used during the french revolution during the beheading of marie antoinette and louis XVI, or it is how I correlate revolution in my head. haha!

          Though I know mucho poquito espanol. Don't test me on it. haha!
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        Apr 21 2012: Well, if you want to memorize some phrases in spanish let me know.....see, even though you are an adult, still you must first memorize to learn knowledge, then understand what you have learned and use it wisely and finally teach it to others..........I love that TED conversations can be spread around.

        Be Well.......Cuidate (pronounced queedahte.......literally 'take care of yourself')
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      Apr 21 2012: Agreed ... but the revolution needs to take into accounts the constraints of the human mind. There are reasons why things are the way they are, and some of them are not about the pressure of historical events. They are about how we make sense of the world around us, and how we constantly keep messing it up.

      The evolution of human societies are a little like the development of weather systems. Once an idea takes hold, it can turn into a veritable storm. Human beings will belive in the most preposterous things, if enough people around them are (pretending to?) believe the same. This type of factor will limit our ability to "construct" ideal societies, and are one reason why revolutions go astray, why they bring the "wrong" kind of people into power, and why they tend to derail and have unintended consequences.
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        Apr 21 2012: Yes, I hear what you're saying Jorgen.
        I have a modicum of faith and hope for mankind that we can create a fair and just world. With societies based on equality and fairness, not just greed, everywhere you look greed !! And with leaders who care and or, are fearful of the people, not the other way around :)))

        A pleasure discussing it with you.
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          Apr 22 2012: Likewise! I'm concerned because the usual pattern in human interaction seems to be that the greater the need becomes for peaceful cooperation, the more that cooperation breaks down.

          Biologists have shown that inside a closed group, selfish individuals tend to outcompete cooperative individuals, and that in competition between groups, coooperative groups tend to outcompete groups dominated by selfishness.

          Afghanistan, Somalia and Haiti seem to be examples of how this translates to human societies when they come up against severe environmental constraints. These societies are dominated by intra-group rather than intergroup competition, which sort of explains why internal cohesion break down and the whole area descends into chaos. If the world is getting hotter (never mind the cause), we're going to have a LOT more people living in such environments 10 years from now, which will mean more strife, more hunger and more illegal immigrants.

          As for the US, I'm seeing development there from the outside, and my analysis could be quite similar to yours: Right now, the place is on the path towards a revolution. I hope it's going to be a peaceful one, and that the people it brings into power will be unlike Stalin or Robspierre. More likely, I believe that your amazing society will manage to absorb the strain in time and turn it into constructive change, rather than destructive explosion. But you HAVE to find a way to limit inherited privilege.

          :-J
    • Apr 23 2012: I couldn't agree more. Thanks
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    Apr 21 2012: Empathy is the single greatest strength of humanity.
    All else is a side-show.

    We need to know a little more about advantage - how much is actually necessary, and at which point personal advantage degrades humanity.
    • Apr 21 2012: Mitch, I just read an article about a study that shows those who have the greatest advantages are the least empathetic. I, too, wonder at which point personal advantage degrades humanity. When does personal advantage become a sense of entitlement, then superiority?
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        Apr 21 2012: Hi Donna, it appears that yes, they have the greatest advantage...........but appearances can be deceiving.

        In the long run, you reap what you sow.
        • Apr 21 2012: That saying, you reap what you sow, draws upon the belief that there is an after life, or a belief in Karma. Both of these beliefs, each of which are unproven, has created a degree of passivity within humanity to not hold accountable the people responsible for commiting inhumane acts. Imagine how much more proactive humanity would be in seeking to hold the inhumane to account if humanity believed this life that we live, on this planet we call home, was the only one we had. The time for leaving it to some unproven supernatural force must come to an end because the deterent doesn't work on psychopaths and we're letting them get away with unspeakable horrors because to many of the none-psychopathic masses still believe in the heaven/hell/karma of reward and punishment.
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          Apr 21 2012: Roxane Paczensky,

          You took my simple idea in my head and you completely expanded it. Thank you!

          I too agree with your idea, but I feel that it is true when they say "bad habits die hard". Does everyone have the ability to realize how this belief of after life or Karma is not a good excuse to let certain bad deeds go unpunished or has society not evolved in that direction to allow these ideas to be removed from social institutions?

          I too believe in a possibility of an after life or Karma, but I find it to have stuck with me.
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          Apr 21 2012: Roxane and Derek,
          The phrase..."you reap what you sow", can also describe what we do while here on this earth......can it not? I observe that energy flows through us as individuals, and as groups of individuals all the time. So, in that respect, the energy that we send out to others, often comes back to us, don't you think?

          I send out loving energy just because it's enjoyable, and I agree that the stories of heaven/hell have NOT seemed to work too well regarding people's behavior. I really like being HERE...NOW, and I prefer to spend my time in the moment, rather than worrying, or wondering about an after life, heaven/hell! Based on my experience here on earth, what I send out to people often comes back, and I believe that is simply the flow, or balance of energy.

          That being said, I agree Roxane that the phrase often sends the message of afterlife or karma, and we CAN change our perception of the meaning...can we not?

          Derek,
          I agree...change is sometimes difficult, and certain habits "die hard", as you insightfully say. I believe society HAS evolved in the direction of change. Just look at how much we are discussing this issue here on TED? We now have the technology to connect with one another, and I believe people are evolving to the point of wanting to think and feel for themselves. This may contribute to creating more accountability in our world?
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          Apr 22 2012: Oh Colleen,

          Your words are touching, and I believe you have pointed out the fact which was right in front of me. =)

          WE ARE READY TO EVOLVE MORE THANKS TO TED, OTHER PLATFORMS, AND DIALOGUE OF THE CURRENT AND FUTURE GENERATIONS! =D
        • Apr 22 2012: Agree @Colleen -
          Tho perhaps often connected to spiritual thoughts @Roxane, "reap what you sow" has clear applicability here and now in our daily lives - in our interactions with each other - its just the 'Law of the Farm'. Plant wheat in a field, and then try to harvest corn... :)

          Or to come full circle with @Mitch's original thread comment, I can't be apathetic about people around me, and then expect empathy when my challenges come.
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          Apr 23 2012: Derek and DW,
          The idea is right in front of ALL of us. Now the thing to do is for each and every one of us to act on it..."BE what we want to "SEE" in our world. What we focus on expands:>)
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        Apr 21 2012: Hi DOnna.

        YOu have to go back and back and back .. and realise that all true change is a great big majestic swing that the whole planet participates in.

        RIght now .. the planet is watching kenly to see if there is anything humanity can save of itself.

        We will decide for her.

        Our gift of empathy is very worthwhile - no other creature in our knowledge has expanded potential agency so far into reality.

        My intuition is that she (our planet) will allow a little window through for our gift, but all the game-players (sociopaths) and destroyers (psychopaths) just won't make it through.

        It's hard right now in this period of transition, but be of good faith - comfort is not our friend, games are for cheats, and teh balance will be imposed.

        We will need a margin of comfort - the measure is one-year of supply. THat supply is looking a little bit more than it was a few years ago - but the minimum advantage threshold is the absolute definition of the human.

        Don't look to the supermarkets .. me and my friends made sure there is only about 2 hours of supply in the chain.

        Don't live in a city - this is a place of game-players - who are just instants away from losing. They have no idea how vulnerable they are. Their skills will not be needed in a very short time.

        Empathy is all that the planet wants from us.

        Be honest, sharing, emapthetic and loving.

        Be ready for a lot of sadness.

        There is nothing wrong with sadness.

        Tears wash away all stains.
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        Apr 21 2012: Sorry Donna, I had to highjack your reply button to explain my comment to Roxan.

        @ Roxan...YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.....(I am not shouting....I'm just putting it in big letters hoping you visit the page again and see it.

        You reap what you sow is a life principle....not a death and afterlife principle.

        I was addressing Donna's comment on a study that people without empathy "appear" to get ahead. And I replied, that you reap what you sow. They may appear to get ahead....but not in the long run....the long run being next week, next month, next year, next job, next relationship, next decision...

        If someone lacks empathy, you cannot expect others to be empathetic to them. Here is another life principle at work.....you treat others as you would like them to treat you.

        If someone disrespects his employees, and degrades them and is condescending, he doesn't have to wait for the afterlife to reap what he has sown. In this life, he will sooner or later reap what he has sown.

        It's like a crooked mechanic. He might get away with his shinanegans for a while, but, eventually he'll lose his customers. His reputation will be damaged, and he might even get in trouble with the law......who knows, he might end up on the other side of a 20/20 hidden camera investigation.

        A farmer does not wait for the afterlife or karma to reap the fruits of his labor that he has sown. And we, do not need to wait for karma, afterlife, or any such things to realize that there are consequences for our lack of understanding, empathy and love towards our fellow human been.

        The time is now, not later.
        • Apr 22 2012: Heh - didn't see this comment @Mary. Would have made mine above unnecessary :)
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        Apr 23 2012: @Donna (et al)
        Here is a simple parable about empathy and advantage:

        Jim and Bob were 2 nomadic hunters looking for something to eat.
        Jim was crouched by a big rock.
        On the other side of the rock a rabbit also crouched nibbling grass.
        Jim could not sense the rabbit, the rabbit could not sense Jim.
        But a hundred meters away, Bob could see the rabbit, and could see Jim.
        Bob made teh symbolic guestures to Jim: "RAbbit : Rock : Other side"
        JIm received teh message and could now "see" the rabbit in his perception.
        He lunged over the rock and skewared the rabbit.
        Jim and Bob both ate that night. Their empathy had fed them both.
        AS they cooked, a woman was attracted by the delicious smell and came to the cooking fire.
        Jim and Bob shared the rabbit with her. And they each became aware of sexual desire .. and a potential rivalry.
        The next day, Jim was on station by the rock, and Bob was on watch 100 meters away.
        Bob signalled "Rabbit : Rock : other side".
        JIm responded by lunging over teh rock with his spear - but it was NOT a rabbit!! It was a bear!"
        JIm was shredded by the bear, and Bob returned to the campsite to mate with the woman.
        The next day, Bob went out alone and caught no rabbits. And teh next day .. nothing.
        The woman left his camp in search of a better provider. Bob became weaker and eventually starved.
        SCoreboard:
        With empathy: Humans 1, Rabbits 0
        Without empathy: Humans 0, Bears 1
        Bob got sex, but it didn't do him much good in the end.
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      Apr 21 2012: I love your idea about the "advantage" subject. History is ripe with lessons - what happens when advantages are allowed to accumulate. When done right, such a talk could even help explain why our bodies have been programmed to self-destruct ... in order that we don't outcompete our offspring, and to give them a chance to do better than we did.
    • Apr 21 2012: I cams in to say a better understanding of emotions and feelings. Empathy is at the top of my list. I think putting lables and names to them helps to understand and creats a want to help and understand others.
  • Apr 20 2012: The shift came in my thinking just when my eldest child became a teen. I was no longer the big star in my mental movie. It was very much an ensemble cast and I would do anything to give them the best storylines.
  • Apr 20 2012: Language is the most powerful, most available, yet most commonly misused and abused tool at our disposal. We don't need to shout, to broadcast, or to announce. We need to communicate and to interact; both are actions that involve speaking (and I don't mean just verbally) as well as listening (and I don't just mean with our ears). Nothing is known until it is known through language, even if it is known only unto ourselves.
    • Apr 20 2012: Communication! Exactly, I agree with you completely. Communication is cause of most, if not all, problems and can as well be solution for all of those.
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        Apr 21 2012: I feel most people think of communication as becoming too overly politically correct, but I don't feel that it is so bad.

        What are your thoughts about a world of absolute political correctness?
        • Apr 21 2012: We live in a weird time. My niece gets trophies for losing at sports. We're afraid of conflict. Everybody wins all the time. She has trouble understanding that she can't always win. Now this isn't probably the best anecdote to demonstrate, but what I'm trying to say is that I think that evades a reality that requires that we learn how to embrace conflict. That isn't to say we should go around spouting racial slurs or bad language, but we should also attempt to confront and effectively engage with language that is repressive, oppressive, and downright hurtful. Political correctness doesn't correct-- it's an evasive maneuver that doesn't, in the long run, solve problems. The only way to overcome offensive language is to understand where it comes from and start a dialogue. What happens can be frightening and troublesome, but if we work at it, I truly believe it can lead to respect if not an understanding.
        • Apr 21 2012: In this case I didn't think of political correctness, not even close. Actually I think those terms are not so much related at all. These days being politically correct often means exactly the opposite - to bite your tongue, not to say something unless you can direct it to both sides.
          When I say communication, I assume open, direct and honest discussion, freedom of speech without fear, but with the idea of politeness and others' feelings, I assume will to listen and hear, and finally open mind and humility to admit and adjust when we are shown to be wrong.
        • Apr 22 2012: I'm kinda partial to the phrase "Many in society have forgotten how to *disagree* without being *disagreeable*."

          For those that disagree :), just check Internet blogs for the amount of trolling that goes on - even when an idea warrants merit, the manner in which it's presented is SO distasteful that the opportunity to influence is lost.

          "Who you are speaks so loudly, I can't hear what you're saying." - Emerson
    • Apr 21 2012: Beyond that Cara, he words we choose are powerful creators of our reality.
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        Apr 23 2012: I agree Cara, Buga, Derek, DW and Donna!
        The words we speak and the way in which we communicate (speak and listen) are a big contributing factor to the reality we want to create in our life experience. The manner in which we present ourselves with our communication is so very important:>)

        Derek,
        You ask..."What are your thoughts about a world of absolute political correctness?"

        Personally, it feels like a catch phrase that has so many different meanings, it has lost meaning for me...just my own thought/feeling:>)
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      Apr 21 2012: And, even when we think we think we understand another person, we really don't.

      There is no way of knowing another human's innermost thoughts and feelings.

      We only know what they wish to reveal to us.

      It is hard when you are an introvert, and cannot be around people who are poor communicators. I have that problem. When people put on an act in front of me, and measure their words to be proper, I hesitate to be around them......they make me uncomfortable. That is precisely when I need empathy, and to give them the benefit of the doubt.............I am constantly working on this side of my personality.

      Hence the appropriate phrase: "The art of conversation".

      Thank you Cara for your lovely lesson.
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    Apr 20 2012: That we (1) are alive and that (2) we have a choice about what to do with the time we spend inside this living body (which by the way is part of so many, tiered, living ecosystems on the macroscale (city/state/country/planet/galaxy etc), and on the microscale COMPOSED of just as many, tiered living cellular/molecular ecosystems). What a gift!
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    Apr 21 2012: Improve parenting if you want to improve the human race.
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      Apr 22 2012: Parents get so defensive when they are criticized, but maybe that is because of the hormonal imbalance of caring for a child 24/7? =P
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        Apr 23 2012: Perhaps parents are defensive because they are trying to do something that they have not been trained to do!
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        Apr 23 2012: Derek,
        There certainly IS a hormonal change when pregnant for a child, and soon after the child is born, and I think in general, the hormones eventually regain balance again.

        I agree with Anthony, that there is sometimes anxiety because parenting is a huge responsibility, and we often don't have the best "training" or parenting skills. It is common to repeat patterns we learn from our own parents, and the patterns we repeat are not always the most beneficial.
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          Apr 24 2012: Colleen, Anthony,

          I read on someones profile on ted that there should be a mandatory course that teaches parents basic skills for teaching their children and examining their proficiency as a parent with basic math, science, and english skills at the same time. I found this very intriguing and I thought that it sounds like a very good idea.

          What do you percieve from this idea?
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        Apr 24 2012: Derek,
        Although I think math, science and english are very important, and it never hurts anyone to improve these skills, I don't percieve them as the most important for parenting, so I guess I wouldn't clump them all together.

        Some parents need very basic skills, like how to care for another human being with respect, compassion, empathy and intent to learn, rather than dictate and/or abuse. True "parenting classes", or "parenting books", which there are plenty of, teach how to become more effective in the life experience as well as more effective parents:>)
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          Apr 25 2012: Colleen,

          I think that maybe we could either omit or extremely briefly skimm the basic skills portion of math, science, and english, but maybe add more of an emphasis on parenting skills. It couldn't hurt to learn. As someone once said to me "Our whole lifetime involves some sort of schooling and we will never escape that fact", though they were being pessimistic. I took that idea of theirs and percieved it in a positive light and I highly agree with them because more understanding of knowledge couldn't hurt. =D
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        Apr 25 2012: Derek,
        I agree....it can never hurt to have more understanding and knowledge. I percieve us all as teachers and students in the earth school of life, so every moment is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve. Trying to "escape" it would simply mean that I wasn't fully present in each and every moment to the best of my ability.

        I'm not here to be complacent, which is why I liked your statement so much..."Try to never be complacent. =) "

        It's a choice in every moment, and I would not deny myself the opportunity to be fully engaged in each moment of the life experience:>)
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        Apr 24 2012: Paul, I think that his lesson also has alot of merit.

        What is one lesson in parenting that needs to be taught?
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    Apr 20 2012: Never be afraid to ask. - ask questions to learn, or ask for help
    • Apr 21 2012: I grew up thinking not to ask, to be self sufficient and yet be helpful. That is a very one way street.

      I did an exercise on a management course where everyone (30+ people) had to ask for something they wanted right now. The asks varied greatly but most if not all needs were met including someone asking for a screw driver for glasses. I had a small pocket set my daughter had given me for my birthday.

      I learnt people on the whole are happy to give as long as there is no pressure. And are often pleased you asked. How good do you feel when you have been able to help someone.
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        Apr 21 2012: "I learnt people on the whole are happy to give as long as there is no pressure."

        I totally agree Precious.
        Many people are only too willing to give when they are asked personally and feel that what they have to give will be valued.
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    Apr 20 2012: Some go ahead faster than others,some go back to help the others,they are the ones that understand there is no finishing line just the horizon.
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      Apr 20 2012: Are you familiar with Zeno's Paradox? :)
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        Apr 20 2012: No but i gave it a Wiki and laughed.

        All things have been discussed somewhere in the past.I was thinking at the time of writing that post of a great person who had the most amazing education,one wouldn't know until you asked her and yet here she was working as a counselor in a dingy community based project,to make a long story short i asked her a question and she just laughed and said "Some idiot has got to pull the rest along otherwise they'll get left behind" not very inspiring but years later i got what she meant.

        Well Jordan you've certainly started an avalanche ;)
    • Apr 20 2012: Really nicely said! Thanks for that insight ;)
  • Apr 20 2012: Upside Down Vice Versa Thinking...

    I would turn the megaphone the other way around and would make us listen for 3 minutes together to the sound of all the ears of the world. The 4th minute I'll ask all to listen to the sound of our own ears. The last minute I'll ask all to wonder if we tasted any differences between the sound of all the ears of the world and the sound of our own ears.

    It should be great if, by this kind of "5 minutes worldwide shared upside down and vice versa thinking, feeling and doing :-)", we could experience together the importance of good listening to ourselves and to others, feel the importance of involving different senses in a learning process and understand that we are all very different and all very the same too. In case this all might not happen... I hope we all had a good laugh Listening to Ears and Tasting their Sound!
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    Apr 20 2012: The stories you tell yourself become true, and the rules you make for yourself bind you. Why not tell yourself stories of contentment, joy, immeasureable wealth, wellness, openness, freedom, and peace?
  • Apr 20 2012: "Travel kills prejudice"
    • Apr 20 2012: Cripples. Many colonialists, members of empire, businessmen, missionaries remain firm in their prejudice. We tend to see what we are looking for.
      • Apr 20 2012: Maybe I should say independent travel where you need to live with your hosts and experience their viewpoints of life.
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          Apr 21 2012: They should try going off roading or off the common path. That usually has all the uncommon/life-changing agents there. =)
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        Apr 21 2012: I agree Peter and David,
        Travel kills prejudice...IF/WHEN we are open to possibilities?

        We do "tend to see what we are looking for", so experiencing our "hosts" viewpoint of life, is a different kind of travel, then travel with an intent to change "them".

        Perhaps our intent is what is important?
        Are we prejudice and crippling ourselves and others?
        What are we looking for with our travel?
        Are we looking for the opportunity to change those we encounter on our travels?
        Or are we looking for an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve with them?

        Our intent changes the interaction and opportunity:>)
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    Apr 21 2012: Life is inherently self-centered. Just imagine what it would be like if we all became other-centered! Flowing from our attention to others' voices and experiences brings us together with understanding and reveals actions that improve our world.
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      Apr 21 2012: ... at a basic level yes; however, that is what makes us, potentially, different; we do not need to be self-centered. This does not have to be, nor should it be, binary; being self-centered and other-centered are not mutually exclusive.
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        Apr 21 2012: Eva and Anthony,
        I do not agree that "Life is inherently self-centered". Life is simply life...how we live our life is a choice.

        I believe knowing our "self" well, helps us be more compassionate, empathic and unconditionally loving with others. When we are aware of this practice, "being self-centered and other-centered are not mutually exclusive, as you insightfully say Anthony:>)

        I agree Eva...we can recognize and reinforce the "flowing from our attention to others...", and in doing so, we experience balance and interconnectedness:>)
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          Apr 21 2012: ... to amplify, understanding and acting on the difference is what makes us humans rather than just animals - ubuntu, I am because you are.
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        Apr 21 2012: Well amplified Anthony. That is one very important word/concept we can bring to the ears of our world because it is an idea worth spreading....Ubuntu:>)
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          Apr 21 2012: it is; if I had to pick one word to live by it would be Ubuntu. Another would be Illulu, which is freedom achieved through honour, self-respect, generousity, courage, honesty, and a sense of duty towards the group.
  • Apr 21 2012: For the last 6 years, my New Year's Resolution has been to live by Ghandi's quote, "We must be the change we wish to see in the world." My life has totally changed. If I care about animals, how can I eat them? I became a vegetarian. If I want a beautiful world, I must pick up the trash I see on beaches, streets, open spaces. I don't accept plastic bags. If I want a kinder world, then I must be that.

    Do you see where this can lead? I'm find I'm spending less time on "automatic pilot" and ma more aware of how we are all part of a system, co-creating our reality by countless daily thoughts, actions and conversations. I wonder how the world would be if we all practiced this. Imagine... you're an elected official and you vote for war. You send your children first, because that's the level of conviction you have - it's that compelling.
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      Apr 21 2012: If that were true, then those politicians wouldn't need to go to war because everyone would be busy working on ways to benefit the world and the future of the world. =)
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      Apr 21 2012: Donna,
      I HAVE imagined...many times....how our world could be if each and every one of us was aware of what you speak about. Many times people think/feel that their little acts of kindness and responsibility won't make a difference, so they don't even try. I totally agree...'BE" what we want to "SEE" in our world!
  • Apr 21 2012: Do not seek to end the chaos in your life.
    Learn to live WITHIN the chaos - find your 'center' in it -
    and you'll master this life from the inside out.
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      Apr 21 2012: YES...YES....YES....
      Learn to be comfortable with discomfort:>)
      Be like the mighty oak in the middle of the storm:>)
      • Apr 21 2012: There are people who even draw strength from chaos.

        Think of it - for those, this chaotic world becomes...
        an endless supply of strength!
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      Apr 21 2012: Try to never be complacent. =)
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        Apr 21 2012: This is a GREAT piece of advise Derek:>)
        I tried to simply give you a thumbs up, but I'm maxed out for you today:>)
    • Apr 21 2012: Everything that happens in your life bears seeds of goodness. Everything.
      • Apr 22 2012: Corollary: In ALL things, be grateful
        (people confuse this with FOR all things... very different meaning :)
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        Apr 23 2012: Mwenjew and DW,
        I agree...there is opportunity in every moment:>)
        And...sometimes, we have to dig through a little dirt to begin to see the seeds sprouting:>)
        It is not always easy to experience the goodness unless we uncover some of the dirt!
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    Apr 21 2012: We are all pieces of a puzzle.

    All actions cause a reaction.

    We all have agency.

    There is always more than one option to approach a situation or answer a problem.

    Not all options are clear or desired.

    The option you choose will affect your surroundings.

    Your environment could change a tiny bit or it could disappear all together.

    Take your time and think about the options.

    Act according to an option that could benefit everyone, but do keep yourself healthy, sane, and progressing forward.

    Know that these actions has affected something, someone, or somewhere somehow.

    The world wasn't created in one day and the effects of our actions can take time to emerge, but you have made a change.

    In psychology, positive and negative is defined as giving/adding(positive) or taking/removing(negative), like giving someone a hard time or removing the week old smelly trash.

    Positive or Negative change is all based on your actions.

    Put someone or something elses history in mind because history repeats itself and don't be inconsiderate.

    Then think about the possible outcomes, and the ripples they could cause, whether a child, adult, object, animal, environment, etc. could be affected by your actions.

    You decide whether you want to impact your environment through positive or negative choices.

    There is always room for revision.

    Life isn't linear, so don't be linear.

    Now go and live like today is your last, but think like your life depended on it.

    Go hug someone or something you love.

    Thanks for reading my thoughts. Feel free to share yours. =D
    • Apr 21 2012: It's supposed to be one lesson, right?
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        Apr 21 2012: OOPS...Derek got a little carried away...good ones though....huh?
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        Apr 21 2012: I think that I'm more of a free writer, then refining ideas kind of person, but I still posted what I feel strongly about. =)
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      Apr 21 2012: Derek, were you copying and pasting or did you memorize all of these? LOL.....=P

      And, one final question, do you understand what these mean? drum drum cymbals =)

      Hopefully your answers will be....no, no, and yes.
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        Apr 21 2012: Jim, Colleen: In my head, I thought that the ideas were one, but yes, it seems they came out to be more than one....but I would extract one major idea from the whole list:

        Think of your actions before you act. =)

        Mary!!! Hi!!!

        They were all in my head and I just finished watching a documentary earlier about deforestation and the poor orangutans and other animals being affected by it. It made me really think, then I got on ted and saw this conversation!

        You answered the questions as I would answer them, no, no, and yes. haha! =)
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          Apr 21 2012: Derek,
          I percieve EVERYTHING to be interconnected, so I agree...your post is all one:>)
          Apparently YOU percieve everything as interconnected as well, if you can watch a documentary about deforestation and orangutans and come up with the list you provided above:>)
          I LOVE IT!
        • Apr 21 2012: No problem.
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        Apr 21 2012: ps: my comments have weird spacing and I can't seem to fix it or it could be just my screen. My apologies if it is weirdly spaced. =)
    • Apr 21 2012: we are all pieces of the same puzzle

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        Apr 21 2012: I am copying and pasting this quote on to another conversation started by James Kindler, on why don't people see we are one.....

        Hope you don't mind....=)

        And, hey, how are you? Haven't seen you around since the conversation on quotes I think?!!
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        Apr 23 2012: Ah, that is better phrasing. =)
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    Apr 20 2012: peace of mind is the only thing we are really looking for, and really after. nothing gives us peace of mind except for looking at things the way they really are, not with our limited perceptions.

    The only hard thing about finding peace of mind is just that, finding it. everybody has their own method. I read the buddhist dharma, and just reading the truth of the words is powerful enough to change mindsets and attitudes.
  • Apr 20 2012: It's wrong to have more than you need.
  • Apr 20 2012: We each have more power than Emperors and kings dreamed of. We have run out of excuses for killing or allowing starvation, etc. There are much better uses of our wealth than accumulating more and destroying the world to get it.
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      Apr 21 2012: The collective is more powerful than the influenting individual, but so many don't realize this!
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      Apr 25 2012: Perceived value is the hinge of humanity's monetary motivation. Its the choice of driving a Bentley or a Mini, socio-economic status is what most people make judgements on even though when I personally buy anything its because of my personal preference - not what i can personally afford.

      Gemstones are another resource that society has missed the mark on. Yea they're shiny and rare, but what creates value besides that? My thoughts are that these precious stones are concentrated energy that our living planet produces. We wear them for nothing else except for style and stature, yet ancient legends and lore speak of Atlantians using crystals to power their flying machines... we must learn to use what we have at our disposal to the best of our ability - WASTE NOT WANT NOT. Otherwise, blood diamonds will still continue to trickle out of Sierra Leon and will see no end in sight as long as we place the wrong types of value on our resources.
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    Apr 20 2012: Be civil, and listen to others even when you disagree with them. It is not ok to demonize a position or person that you do not agree with.
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    Apr 20 2012: Doing something that you are scared of allows you to grow the most.
  • Apr 20 2012: We are all human beings living on the same world, breathing the same air, drinking the same water and eating the same food. Therefore we should all endavour to get along with each other and share the important things. Isn't it crazy that we don't?
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      Apr 21 2012: should we not also promote inter-species cooperation and consideration?
      • Apr 21 2012: Absolutely, good point. Change that second sentence to (and correct the spelling mistake) :-
        Therefore we should all endeavour to get along with each other, share the important things and respect the other lifeforms who live with us.

        Being a tree-hugging vegetarian type of dude I should really have included that from the start :D
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      Apr 21 2012: Terry and Derek,
      I totally agree...we are living in the same world, breathing the same air, and we are more the same than different. We all might be SO much more content if we got along, with respect and consideration for each other and the earth which sustains us...great point! Yes Terry...it seems crazy that we don't do it...we are missing an opportunity!
      • Apr 21 2012: Indeed we are, which is why we should never stop communicating and communicating and communicating until every one gets the message. Oh for that hypothetical megaphone to whisper softly into everyones ear ;)
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        Apr 22 2012: Its a bit crazy, a bit sad, and certainly an opportunity, at many levels - family, friends, work, our local community, nationally, internationally.

        Perhaps our most potent sphere of influence is ourselves and those we directly interact with, but we are not entirely helpless or voiceless when comes to what we expect from those who represent us. Perhaps our personal interactions with the most different "others" are also important.

        Isn't it strange how once you break down the artificial divides of ethnicity, religion etc most people are the same. Basically hoping for a good life and not wishing evil on most others.

        In
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      Apr 23 2012: Dear Mark,
      I TOTALLY agree with you and Anthony Robbins...you're in good company...in my humble perception:>)

      We have been taught, many times, that taking care of ouselves, giving ourselves time and space, knowing ourselves, etc. is selfish. If we don't take care of ourself and nurture ourself first, we don't honestly have anything to give to others. We cannot give to others, something we do not have in, and for our "self". The more we nurture ourselves, the more energy we have to give to others....and so......the cycle of flow continues:>)

      If we incorporated the idea of knowing ourselves into each and every aspect of the human experience....just imagine........I LOVE IT! I agree Mark.....It might make our world a better place for all:>)
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    Apr 21 2012: Think humanity & act positively......only action creates differences.....
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    Apr 21 2012: If you find yourself working too many hours, not enjoying yourself, and no one is going to die if you don't get that task in front of you done today then stop it now and laugh.
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      Apr 21 2012: Good advise Eva!

      "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused" :>)

      Laughter is WONDERFUL...healing and energizing!
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        Apr 22 2012: Oh, maybe that is why I often laugh and it doesn't always make sense at that second. Ha! =)
  • Apr 21 2012: Laugh
    When in doubt - laugh
    When in stress - laugh
    When in love - laugh
    Laugh to start your day
    Laugh to finish your day
    Laughter really is the best medicine
    Share it freely with yourself and with others
    Laugh from your very core
    Laugh
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      Apr 21 2012: I found out personally, when you laugh if someone asks you "did you do it?" they think you did it.....but otherwise yes! =D
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        Apr 21 2012: AAh, that is probably because they saw this TED talk:

        http://www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html

        If you haven't seen it yet, I highly recomment it. (I'm not lying, I'm speaking with a serious face)
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          Apr 21 2012: OMG! Mary, I love that talk! It is on my list of favorite talks, but I favorite many videos. =P
      • Apr 21 2012: Thx Mary M - I'll have a listen to Pamela Meyer's talk - thanks!

        Derek - LOL! In all honesty though, if laughter was your intuitive response to the question, are you really concerned if they think you did it?! !)
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          Apr 21 2012: You are welcome Pamela....I have seen it twice.....then I had to stop, because you can get carried away, and start seeing signals in people and then distrust everybody.......but it's still a great talk.
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          Apr 21 2012: I happen to laugh when I'm super nervous, and I laugh at many things, but not always for reasons that other people think of. Maybe my brain is wired differently?
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          Apr 21 2012: Derek,
          Your brain is wired perfectly....in my humble perception!

          Laughing is often a nervous reaction, and you've already recognized that in yourself. It could be an opportunity to get information about yourself. Next time it happens, take a quiet moment to ask yourself what you are nervous about:>)
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        Apr 21 2012: Speaking from personal experience as a teacher, I have always noticed that boys laugh alot out of nervousness and not because they did anything wrong.

        I don't like to see this behavior in adults, because it makes me suspicious......also, it tells me they are not mature.......well, that is my opinion.......but that's me.

        While I love humor, there is a place and a time for everything. Sometimes though we just have to give people the benefit of the doubt.....understanding that laughter can be a result of being nervous helps us to do so. Thanks for sharing Derek.
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    Apr 21 2012: I would teach the value of humility. Humility helps us see more clearly, enlarges our view of reality, and is the basis for true freedom.
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    Apr 21 2012: Always be on the lookout when you are bothered by what other people write and say,
    because this may reveal the kind of person you are.
    • Apr 21 2012: People are mirrors.
      If you don't like what you see/hear in these 'mirrors'...
      It's not the mirrors fault.
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        Apr 21 2012: We are all like mirrors, reflecting information back and forth all the time. What we see is our reflection. When we are clear in ourselves, we provide a clear mirror for others. I agree DW...what we see is not the mirrors fault!!!
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          Apr 21 2012: Do peoples professions and hardships of their own lives(possibly self-made) make them think on a personal gain level or monetary/company/capitalistic level? Like, when someone points the finger at someone else or has fallic thoughts. For instance, "he/she was mean to me for no reason" or "you always/never do say that".
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        Apr 21 2012: Derek,
        I don't believe that anything "makes" us think a certain way....do you? As functioning human beings, we have choices regarding our thoughts.

        Regarding accusations...The information given to someone else with an accusation, often is our own projection/reflection of ourselves.

        We never know for sure what is going on in someone's mind and heart unless s/he chooses to tell us. If we think/feel "he/she was mean to me....", for example, we might want to consider that a person can only give out what is in his/her heart and mind at that moment. We don't have to accept it as our own...make any sense?
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          Apr 22 2012: Ah, Yes Colleen,

          I just really dislike how some people percieve money as bad, but it is the people who have the money and act poorly with it that gives symbols different meanings. I sometimes want to change these systems, but I have yet to gain that ability.
        • Apr 22 2012: .Actually there is something that "Makes Us" think a certain way ...its called the “belief words” (linguistic things that beliefs live in) … those things we use to think with. :-) And since everything is living energy systems ... the beliefs that have taken over our identity ... have literally taken over our society’s cultural system of experience. Case in Point … when over the past 50,000 years has the urge to stop killing our brothers and sisters stopped? Why is assignation with drones less “moral” than dropping 50 … 500 ton bombs on a village? Why does the human race still think it is smart enough to know who it is? Or … when will we stop defending “those belief-to-value supply chains” with our son’s dead bodies and call it patriotic?
        • Apr 23 2012: I like to think that we are what we believe and percieve, and those beliefs are based on our exprences which in turn have helped to shape our cognitons and even the coordiantion of neurons in our brains. Words and beliefs of others are nothing short of useless when your using your own person views as a refrence for the rest of society. Your speaking on the atrocities of war and using that as a schema for the rest of society...
          Do you think man's innate nature is to be cruel?
          And what your saying is kinda hard to understand, as it jumps in to topics that have nothing to do with one another and what society are you talking about all societies on Earth or a single one? And waht does dropping bombs on a village have to do with linguistics?
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        Apr 23 2012: Dear Lawrence,
        If you want to believe that "belief words" "make us" think a certain way, or that "beliefs that have taken over our identity ... have literally taken over our society’s cultural system of experience"...so be it.

        I prefer to believe that as thinking, feeling adults, we choose our beliefs. The beliefs do not control us...we control our beliefs...in my humble perception.

        Lawrence, consider your insightful statement in another comment..."When do you think ... you might be ready ... to want to ... become smarter than the beliefs you think with?"
        Great question!

        Edit: One hour later.
        Derek,
        I just noticed that I didn't respond to your comment addressed to me in this thread.
        I totally agree with you that money is not bad. Money is, as you say, a symbol. As with many other symbols, thoughts, ideas, beliefs, opinions, actions and reactions, it is how we choose to use them that is the important part. You, I or anyone else cannot change the whole systems. We CAN, however, change our own use of information, and together move toward changing the systems. There is power in numbers...is there not?
        • Apr 23 2012: I would certainly hope there is power in numbers... if not then then the recent events in Eruope would give new information into what it would look like if an entire society was insane
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    Apr 20 2012: We are all more the same, than different.
  • Apr 20 2012: Just because you think a thing doesn't make it so. I'm speaking specifically about negative self messages, but I think the idea can be expanded.