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Khushal Khan Khattak

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Marriage and divorce!!! Both mean the same thing!!???

Some of the major reasons for Divorce:

Prior to 1965 the divorce rate was 2% to 3%. By 1985 divorce rates had escalated to 50% and have essentially remained the same.

Many young people have unrealistic expectations of marriage, expecting their relationship to be the perfect union. Their parents were poor role models and they are not prepared to work at their relationship.

Today's young couples are products of the "me generation." They are self-absorbed, focused on getting "my needs" met, but are often insensitive to the particular needs of their partner.

Mates want instant gratification, seeking the material goods their parents worked years to accumulate.

Many spouses have had multiple sexual partners prior to marriage. The parties are jaded and quickly discover how difficult it is to sustain a romantic relationship in the bedroom when they are beset with overwhelming conflicts in the kitchen.

Marital infidelity is all too frequent for some mates who show little guilt or remorse for their actions.

Often partners have little understanding of the concept of loyalty and sacrifice so essential to a good marriage.

Many young couples are products of divorced homes, thus permission to divorce is taken for granted.

Today's couples enter marriage with an expectation their union may not last a lifetime, as if theirs is a "trial marriage."

Some view "serial marriages" as easy come/easy go, but the fallout of betrayal, abandonment, neglect, and despair take their toll, nonetheless.

Many partners are anchorless, searching for their identity. They often feel as if, "I'm afloat and on my own in both marriage and career."

Many spouses are restless and impatient. When the first blush of romance fades , hostilities escalate, they impulsively throw in the sponge and give up.

So my question for you, Folks, is that in the near future, will marriage and divorce mean the same thing? Replies in the form of remedies will be much appreciated. Cheers!!


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    Apr 14 2012: Is this a good thing or does it feel that a wave is slowly building that might wash away something that has stood the test of time?Some might argue that this is a natural consequence of change others might say that there will come a time where men and women will come together in short bond contracts or choose to bond for life but the words will be reworked to remove the word marriage.

    Time will tell as there is great change on the horizon,i think for the young generations of the old world that your part of the planet belongs to will make that change and that change might be for the better, let's hope that that change is engineered for you by you rather than a western style.How would it look if you decided to marry later when you have established yourself more?
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      Apr 14 2012: Women are on the rise brother.....as u said change is on the horizon.....and dat change will be....women dominating men, just like the men who dominated women in the old days.

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