Simon Caira

Personal Coach, Peak Performance Techniques

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How do you do that? I'm curious to know how you get motivated to reach your goals and get results.

What works for you when you need motivation?

JK Rowling eloquently speaks of failures enabling her discovery of what she was truly meant to be.

Neil Pasricha speaks warmly of his personal forward movement in life being attributed to The 3 A's of Awesome: Attutude Awareness Authenticity.

Elizabeth Gilbert speaks beautifully of having the sheer human love and stubbornness to just keep showing up.

Dan Pink expertly informs us that the carrot and stick have no place in business 2012 and although Dan has an excellent point regarding creativity being dampened by rewards and consequences in the workplace, the ways of harnessing personal motivation is still to this day comparable to the world of the good old donkey.

So I wonder; How do you do that?

If you'd care to read http://simoncaira.blogspot.co.uk/#!/2012/04/motivation.html

  • Apr 22 2012: I'd recommend checking out Kelly Mcgonigal's book "The Willpower Instinct" based on her popular Stanford class. It has lots of great information about how motivation and willpower work and what you can do to avoid traps and move towards your dreams.
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    May 7 2012: Where is creativity there is no need for motivation. Life lesson from Donald Trump.
    So forget about motivation be creative! ^_^
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    Apr 22 2012: I agree with many of the posts. Motivation is ultimately intrinsic but I believe we have a duty to our colleagues and friends to give it a little push whenever we can. There's nothing a word of encouragement when things to get tough to keep you going.
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    Apr 22 2012: for me motivation s through inspiration and inspiration is from the people who have achieved their goals by negotiating through their hurdles.
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    Apr 22 2012: 10% inspiration and 90% prespiration. Work for it. You really gotta wanna. All the best. Bob.
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    Apr 20 2012: Tony Robbin's TED talk "Why we do what we do?" is his take on the seven (I think) things that motivate people. You might want to listen to that one and tag it here also.
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    Apr 20 2012: For me, it's when I can help someone out. If I know I can make a difference to someone I love or make a difference to a community via my work, that motivates me.

    Alternatively, if it's an issue that means I am no longer be able to be doing what I love, I'm motivated enough to get that out of the way.
  • Apr 20 2012: I have been working in development projects since 2007; I put project beneficiaries in my mind and feel my actions affects their lives and this really keeps me motivated.

    So my point is that; we develop goals & vision; but we don't use them during our actions and as much as it is important.
  • Apr 20 2012: One thing that helped me motivate myself is through critisism.When someone criticized me for my short coming or poor performance in a particular task ,instead of taking it in a negative way i try to work more harder to outperform and shut the mouth of my critics through my actions rather than words.Analysing critisism positively helps to know what we are lacking in and gives us a boost to outperform.Its rather a emotional burst for ego satisfaction which leads us to our goals.Even being a self critic helps push our own limits and grow.
  • Apr 20 2012: The talk from Neil Pasricha was inspiring. He says let your heart guide You.
    For that is necessary to leave expectations behind. That way I'm open to learn from all, even recognize when my goals were wrong oriented.
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    Apr 19 2012: A careful answer, I think, needs to be situation dependent. When you say "your goals," that can mean a number of things.
    A goal that is connected to deeply held values, a final goal rather than an intermediate goal, often is so compelling that there is no question of motivating oneself. An example might be the goal of raising ones children to have healthy and satisfying lives. You might call love the motivation, or one might say there is an instinct that we label love as a way of describing it. Anyway it's intrinsic.
    Then there are goals that involve finishing something we actually want to do. There might be an externally imposed deadline or there may be a flexible deadline. Many people have the goal, for example, of writing a novel. But when it comes down to it, they don't actually have good ideas for it or know how to build a plot or they may be afraid that when they try they will discover that they aren't up to it ... and so it sits there on hold. There would be some obstacles to overcome here that might need attention before we even start to think about motivation.
    Then there are goals that aren't the real or ultimate goal in a sequence of connected steps, and so the person isn't really interested in the intermediate goal except in an instrumental way. An example is that someone might want to do really well in all her classes because she needs that GPA to get into business school. Getting into business school (or what follows from that) is the real goal, and doing well in biology has no intrinsic interest. Self-talk about the big picture may be effective in this case (an image of business school might then be called the motivation) and perhaps a little after-the-fact reward once the good performance is achieved.
    In my life I am just extremely interested in and commited to the projects in which I am engaged, and it is harder for me to stop working on them than to get motivated to work on them.
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    Apr 19 2012: Hello Simon -

    Birth , Death and Decay is - the absolute truth which no one can avoid . But , after birth we should not just grow up and die. There has to be a purpose in life . We all dream of doing something in life , achieving something - wealth , reputation , recognition , rewards etc . And for this we need motivation , training , practise !

    " IT IS NOT IN THE STARS TO HOLD OUR DESTINY BUT IN OURSELVES " and " Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes of your goals " - tell your students about these things . Train them , make them run after their goals ....

    For this you will have to share Success stories [ and videos ] with them . Let your students know about great people - their frustations , struggles etc and their determination to move ahead . History is the best teacher !

    Regards,

    Ayan
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    Apr 15 2012: failures --> realizing that you're doing something wrong --> do the right thing. = motivation?

    personal forward movement --> attitude, awareness, authenticity --> do the right thing. = motivation?
    awareness= thinking about what is right and what is not?
    authenticity = being true to oneself? in other words, being right to oneself?
    attitude= reflection of awareness?

    having human love --> doing the right thing in her mind? = motivation?

    rewards and consequences --> do the right thing to get the reward. = motivation?

    So really, I think you have to understand ethics in order to be motivated. What is "right" though? You have to come up with what is right by yourself. People may persuade you into thinking something is right. But once you find what is "right" by your own logic, you will do the right thing, and therefore be motivated. That's my analysis at face value based on what you have given.

    ****EDIT
    In response to other people talking about passion. I think that's what passion really is. Finding out what is right in your own mind.

    I scratch your back you scratch mine? http://www.ted.com/conversations/10771/questionaire_on_power.html
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    Apr 14 2012: you may need to re-read my previous comment...
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    Apr 14 2012: Hi Simon

    You being personal coach , I am curious to hear from you.......
    Not from book or not theory , from your experience as a personal coach for Peak Performance.
    May I?
    • Apr 20 2012: I second this.

      I am also interested in hearing Simon's personal experiences in relation to what he feels keeps his pupils motivated.
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      Apr 29 2012: Hi Salim,

      For me, when working with a client, it's always a very individual approach for every person that I sit in the room with.

      Firstly it's up to me to hold the space to enable the elicitation of the client's potential, which more often than not emerges from a place within them that offers insight and answers to artful questioning directed from a space of complete respect. That's to say that I hold a vision, without bounds, without form, just one of pure potential and respect: I simply know that I have a person in front of me who can, without a doubt, do or be whatever they desire and dream of. I completely trust and believe in them and that's where it begins - without form, just essence... the essence of excellence. That's my duty.

      I never motivate or inspire, I merely facilitate the internal process: their journey: the unfolding and revealing of their truth, values and desires. Clean approach is key. Clean Language, Clean Space and Emergent Practice - David Grove, Grovian Psychology - are probably the most important and helpful techniques and practices I have had the blessing to be trained in with regard to enabling a client to naturally find their own way, unveil their own answers, dismantle or remove their own obstacles and create their own compelling motivation.

      I guess it's fait to say there are thousands of ways in which such a process plays out but there are some similarities that occur and that's why I wrote my blog on motivation.

      Remaining motivated is indeed bolstered by the process I describe in the blog. If you have gone beyond the goal into the feelings of what the goal will really give you and also remain aware of what it is you are moving away from, your chances of success are multiplied. Add to this the use of the symbol (harnessing your unconscious process) and the simple question of 'next right action' and you will be 'cooking on gas' so to say.
      http://simoncaira.blogspot.co.uk/#!/2012/04/motivation.html
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    Apr 13 2012: Motivation comes from outside, and you need some outside influence to get you going. But if you're inspired to achieve something and you doing what you love and loving what you do, you don't need motivation and outside influence.

    The problem is that people don't know what they want as their highest values but are injecting values from other people, authorities, who they minimize themselves.

    Find out what your true values are and then you'll know what to do.
    http://drdemartini.com/value_determination/determine_your_values#content_top
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      Apr 14 2012: None can motivate anyone.......rather it's one's ownself....so it's internal.
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        Apr 14 2012: well you can motivate someone but then it doesn't last. when you're inspired, you don't need motivation as noone needs to remind you what to do...
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          Apr 14 2012: That's it, as you told "it does not last" so it's not motivation.....
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    Apr 12 2012: Fun, money, challenge, curiosity, necessity....
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    Apr 12 2012: For me it's passion.....
    When I get passionate for something I am motivated to go for it
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      Apr 13 2012: passion means to suffer - you sure that's what keeps you going?
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        Apr 13 2012: Definitely.....as to me passion means deep love or call from heart....
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          Apr 13 2012: Passion of the Christ = Suffering of the Christ
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        Apr 14 2012: Well I am not Jesus
      • Apr 15 2012: Hi Juraj.....wow, you are correct!!!

        Origin:
        1125–75; Middle English (< Old French ) < Medieval Latin passiōn- (stem of passiō ) Christ's sufferings on the cross, any of the Biblical accounts of these (> late Old English passiōn ), special use of Late Latin passiō suffering, submission, derivative of Latin passus, past participle of patī to suffer, submit; see -ion

        passion...means literally suffering.

        However, today it usually refers to an intense emotion that goes beyond "like or love".....I don't think anyone thinks of passion as suffering anymore.