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Is it not absolutely natural to watch one's facial expressions, body posture, natural body qualities - the whole compound of them all?

Watching 'Nadia Al-Sakkaf: See Yemen through my eyes' and reading comments, discussions below the video, I decided to ask some questions to get some replies from the ones who probably are way more competent in some fields than me.
I just want to add that I do not want to offend anybody, I live where headscarves, hijabs, nijabs, etc. are not worn and to me occurred some very natural questions.
When we talk about all that headscarf-matter we probably talk more about the cultural matters, but I would like to watch at this from the nature-side.
So, is it not fundamentally natural to observe people's faces and bodies to perceive all the nonverbal information? To protect yourself, to be sure if it's not a lie, to understand the feelings better, to understand if a person suits you for a close friendship, cooperation, etc.
Another point which may sound not very attractively, but, again: is it not natural to 'search' for a life partner almost by all of the senses? Estimate him/her visually, by the scent (not perfumes, but some natural 'perfumes', for example, pheromones), also, even by touching. Of course, all the 'conclusion making' of all 'parameters' is probably more on the unconscious mind.
But this conclusion making (men on women), and in fact, taking 'the parameters' into 'consideration' is not allowed by hijabs, burcas etc.
Does this natural research of a partner is not valuable? To spend most of the time and create a family with the one, who would be 'accepted' on the unconscious level (the set of genes is acceptable), to be sure that the temperament is acceptable and so on.
I would like to hear those people who say that headscarves and others are cultural, moral or some other matter, and who find the counterarguments to all arguments of those who think about them with a controversy.
Addition: is it possible to get enough of vitamin D wearing this kind of clothes?


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    Apr 11 2012: We have to be very careful of our preconceptions.Certain body language of facial expressions may trigger unconscious memories that could positively or negatively influence our response to the other person. So our unconscious, instinctive reactions are often clouded, not a "pure" reflection of the other person, I think. If we can work our way through those things, it makes sense to me to be aware of the full breadth of qualities and characteristics of our interaction with the other person. Otherwise, we may be repressing an aspect of the interrelationship. Then it becomes a matter of choice, in how much importance we assign to each attribute.
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      Apr 11 2012: What about talking with a person with a stoned face and body? Does this lead to a pure 'reflection'?
      I suppose, any random detail may trigger memory - a fleck on a burca, the color of hair, shaking hands...
      Facial and body expressions is mainly a social function, isn't it? It's for showing feelings, thoughts (sometimes without words) as well as proving the words with them, sometimes for showing what you want to show. Is this not a highly valuable tool we all have? Is it not naturally vital - and we can refuse it?

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