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how does an embarassing moment brings out the weirdest person in us?

We are not always the best person who we can be, not atleast in an embarrasing moment, i am talking about the majority. We always thinks we could have done or acted better in a situation that had already happend. most of us, in an embarrasing situation, tend to say or do anythings that could add to the embarrassment factor.
some will get defensive, scream, shout, run away on the brink of tears, or flat-out cry in public making a bigger scene out of the moment. A moment can turn everything upside down, you drop down your confidence level right to the bottom.
An anxious and embarrassing moment can effect you mentally. They can cause some kind of social phobia. In some cases, those who fear embarrassment will change their lives to avoid many social situations. This can negatively impact their ability to make friends, and to network for the sake of their careers.
what is the science behind such moments, how do you react in such moments, better to ask, how had you reacted in those moments? is this a problem of this generation, or has it been the problem of all generations?


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    Apr 7 2012: Hi Pranoy,

    What you’ve described is a problem not just of this generation. Embarrassment is one of the many forms that shame takes, and all humans are vulnerable to it, for the following reasons.

    Here is the science behind shame/embarrassment. Human beings are all born with innate capacities to experience what we call ‘emotions,’ often called ‘feelings.’ It’s interesting that only in recent years has the study of this incredibly important part of our life-experience started to get significant study.

    Our emotions evolved as a means to interpret our experience. We all know from our own experience that our emotions can be powerful motivators in our lives, giving us important information about how we are reacting to events and people in our lives.

    Unfortunately, because humanity as a whole has not understood the realm of emotion very well, we are often confused about how to interpret the information our emotions are giving us. Sometimes we take the information our emotions provide (such as the anger we feel that gives us a message like: “I really don’t like this situation I’m in!”) and take misguided actions that only make a bad situation worse - because that's what we learned to do.

    We learn to give meaning to the physical sensations that our emotions arouse in us through how our parents and others respond or react to us when we’re displaying our emotions.

    In the specific case of embarrassment (which is one of the forms the basic emotion of shame takes), the feeling of it comes over us very quickly and ‘jams our circuits’ for a bit. We feel suddenly confused and unsure of ourselves. What happens when shame of any kind is triggered internally, is that our Sympathetic Nervous System (which is activated when we move towards something or somebody with the emotion of Interest) suddenly is squelched by our Parasympathetic Nervous System (which is triggered by the fear that we may have done something wrong) having been activated. . .


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