- David Hamilton
- Santa Clarita, CA
- United States
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Is humanity in a “sexual race to the bottom”?
And… Can we do anything about it?
So… This is a theory I’ve been working on in the back of my mind for awhile, and it has me a bit frustrated. Before beginning, I would just like to admit that I speak from a masculine perspective. I don’t think I have some magical insight into the female psyche, I am simply an unashamed and honest man, who believes he can tell our side of this story, and hopefully open his mind enough, to hear the other side. I hope to learn from comments here, not bash you all in the head with my perspective. Without further ado…
I fear, at times, that humanity is engaged in a sexual race to the bottom, in which, if a young man, does not agree with absolutely everything a young woman has to say… She can find a young man who will. This is not the fault of women, it’s actually the fault of men, with no self respect, or integrity… The rub, however, is that men are biologically designed to gain a portion of their ego and self esteem, from the perceived attractiveness of their sexual partner.
This is a very dangerous problem to have, because men don’t agree, with about half of the nonsense women say. Just like women, don’t agree with half of our bullshit. We are different, it’s amazing… Why would we want it to be any different? Isn’t the whole point of being in a relationship to stop having sex with yourself?
My sense, is that there are a few reasons for this behavior. The first being that culturally, adult men and women, are not comfortable talking to children about sex, gender, or the roles of masculinity and femininity in our culture, because we no longer, even know what those roles are. The second, being that as women rose to prominence in the workforce, there was suddenly a market for men who were sexy and jobless. The third reason being, that a good mans motivation, has always been tied to his partner and family. Men are good at doing things for women, and family, we are not yet good, at doing things for ourselves.