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barb lundgren


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The place to start a real conversation is with oneself. This is the voice the voice that has been squelched, most often from birth onward.

I think Sherry raises some critical points in the evolution of human development, consciousness and communication. She advises us to relearn how to talk to one another, sharing conversation, for example, around the dinner table. Have you seen the kind of conversations that this results in? I have been watching them for decades and they are not typically conversations. Most children and their thoughts, ideas, expressions, passions and preferences have been thwarted from birth or young childhood on. The real conversations, the ones that allow for the the development of authenticity, passion and true engagement with all of life begin inside. Begin that conversation... between myself and I. Don't let anyone else in until that center feels strong, confident and ready for external conversation.


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  • Apr 4 2012: Introversion, when done properly, leads to extroversion. We really do need a lot more open discussion, since everyone is closed. Also check out my other question in this forum.
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      Apr 4 2012: I couldn't find your question so I can't respond to that, but yes, I agree that immersion into oneself very naturally leads to a desire to explore relationships with others. Perhaps not extroversion as we know it, but certainly a reaching out to others for contact and connection.
      • Apr 5 2012: Self-understanding, self-actualization, self-concept in the midst of others, whatever you want to call it and the process. Some people describe it as a spiritual experience, others deep contemplation.

        By the way, here's the question I referred to: http://www.ted.com/conversations/10535/a_discussion_style_school_club.html

        And I agree, we all have that inner voice that we at all times push away from influencing our daily lives, a call to philosophy that is also ignored. We are experts at silencing and oppressing that voice whenever we try to help us through that voice embodying ourselves, fearing the irrelevance.

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