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barb lundgren


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The place to start a real conversation is with oneself. This is the voice the voice that has been squelched, most often from birth onward.

I think Sherry raises some critical points in the evolution of human development, consciousness and communication. She advises us to relearn how to talk to one another, sharing conversation, for example, around the dinner table. Have you seen the kind of conversations that this results in? I have been watching them for decades and they are not typically conversations. Most children and their thoughts, ideas, expressions, passions and preferences have been thwarted from birth or young childhood on. The real conversations, the ones that allow for the the development of authenticity, passion and true engagement with all of life begin inside. Begin that conversation... between myself and I. Don't let anyone else in until that center feels strong, confident and ready for external conversation.


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    Apr 4 2012: Would it be accurate to paraphrase your idea as:" Know why you are conversing."?
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      Apr 4 2012: I LOVE the simplicity of what you say here. When we are really conversing, and not just "making conversation," for authenticity and joy and satisfaction we must have a connected sense of what is important to us. We do have to know WHY we are conversing. When conversing is satisfying and life enhancing, we are engaged. To be engaged requires a thoughtful presence that can only come from knowing who we are... or knowing why we are conversing. Thanks for this simple encapsulation of the essence of the beautiful and soul satisfying art of conversation.
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        Apr 4 2012: You are welcome. If I am anything, I am simple. I know why I conversed with you, and now I know why you conversed with me! Bingo!

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