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Deception in Dating and Relationships

I deeply believe in truth! i like being honest and i like being honest to.
From my knowledge some people "play games" when they first dating with someone, games that play on our insecurities or of "child candy" where they wave something that you want (meeting them, being with them, sex?) and they dont give it to you... unless you do something, follow a path they want and so on.

Mostly my problem is with the games themselves, and maybe it because i am not good at them, but it seems that people enjoy them! It is said that it makes the relationship stronger in the later stage.... if you survive and can play the game.

After Marco's talk i see how people might enjoy things, and i wander if this same outlook is to be used when dating someone? meaning that such games can actualy be good and really make you enjoy them?

What do you think?


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  • Apr 4 2012: First, know that honesty has nothing to do with truth!
    Truth is the truth: What something really is!

    Honesty may be truthful. But it can also be just an opinion, often wrong one, childish need to articulate feelings. If you believe in a lie, you will honestly lie.
    So the games can be very truthful and very dishonest. Sometimes at the same time!

    Second, games are not suited for everyone! Your character influence your behavior greatly. Find out who you are on http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Briggs_Type_Indicator
    To quote "intj tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship)" Maybe you are intj...

    Third, find Double your Dating, second edition. Read it, read it again, learn by heart bridges part and use it. It just works ;) Yes, it deals with games in dating also.

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