- Ella Ben Zvi
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You want to make God laugh? Tell him about your plans...
The problem is not that we have choices; the problem is that we just don’t know how to choose... But we can learn:
We can learn how to be better and smarter consumers
We can learn how to live in the moment
We can learn how to choose without being disappointed – and NOT by lowering our expectations and aspirations. Killing our hopes and dreams won’t do us any good!
What make us unhappy are not the multiple choices, we are unhappy because we try to control and plan their outcomes. And planning and controlling are the predetermined failure that leads us to depression. BTW, if we’ll stop trying to control, we would also be able to live in the moment...
And about the consuming, I find it not surprising that most of the examples were about shopping… We tend to mix buying with being, and that is the real problem of western industrial societies…
I think that the quote: “The secret to happiness is low expectations” is a cynical and negative statement. And living in a dictatorship of options is clearly not the solution…
I believe we can learn to choose with love, and not with fear. We can learn how to go with the flow, instead of complaining about him. And we can be happy and contented with our choice.
Freedom, choice, and the freedom of choice are essential to our happiness, because the real secret to happiness is do what you want.