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Andrea Morisette Grazzini

CEO, WetheP, Inc.

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Have you taken the "other" to lunch, yet?

I'm interested (perhaps Elizabeth Lesser is as well) in seeing her ideas in action. Specifically -- who has tried taking their political "other" to lunch? How were you (and others) transformed? This presumes you were! Which is both my experience with doing so and hope. I'd like to to hear more proof from other bipartisan-adventure believers.

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  • Mar 13 2011: Yes, feminists, parents with alternative views on educations, extreme-right and extreme left, religious extremists including some who have had violent actions—since I'm 15.

    I've learned every time, every day, with one notable exception: most feminists, and all regular readers of Vogue-type magazines. Minutes in the conversation, they would deny the sky is blue if I had said so. The detail of those conversation was hurtful to me, and still haunts me, but the most striking was how fast I would be judged and cast away. It costed me several relations, job opportunities.

    By contrast, people who would kill for (race) purity tend to be respectful of my choice to be a mongrel. They would feel queasy about the idea, but have been confronted to enough contradiction to accept it for what it is. I cannot say that feminists are used to admit “I understand that we disagree, and I might be wrong. What are your points?”

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