- Aneesah Bakker
- The Hague
Owner/Director/Developer, Creative Change Coaching
Vulnerability is a risky business, mostly met by shame. How does one confront shame productively?
"Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage" Brené Brown
Does this mean that practicing vulnerability is practicing courage?
This then seems to lead to the "fact" that practicing vulnerability, risks the experience of shame/being shamed by others.
Shame is an epidemic that needs to be confronted. How does one confront shame?
Brené Brown, from my understanding, offers multiple suggestions.
1. Question our assumptions - e.g. Is vulnerability really a weakness or can it be seen as a strength?
2. Redefine one's perception of what constitutes failure and what constitutes success. "Entering the arena" is an act of success no matter what the critics "judge"
3. Be willing to step out of one's comfort zone
4. Develop & practice empathy
5. Shift ones perceptions about the price one pays for vulnerability. To see that there is more to gain (than to lose) from practicing vulnerability and confronting shame. There is greater suffering in staying small than in daring greatness
6. Confront the practices of "secrecy, silence, (and) judgment"
7. It would be great if people shared their metaphors for vulnerability and shame and how this can be changed. For example, flying under the radar can be turned around to "stepping into the arena"
These are just explorations, and of course expose my vulnerabilities such as that I have no definite direction, no ready answers, no bullet-proof strategies... but it's a stepping into the arena...